New Years resolutions and a Minneapolis Wedding: a musing.
We choose to make resolutions at New Year because it is a powerful symbol, but it is nothing more than a symbol. We already know that.
We don’t wake up on January 1st with new knowledge or new skills. We don’t wake more capable: we are the same people we were on December 31. And yet there is something compelling about the symbolism, about the formality and the ritual, of tying our hopes to a changing calendar. Of knowing that other people will understand when we say “it was a New Years resolution”
Likewise, when we choose to marry, we do not become new or better people. We don’t wake up the day after a wedding and find that, as a couple, we are more capable or more in love, or more anything than we were the day before the wedding.
And yet, there is no denying that the act of marriage is crushingly compelling, that having a formal ceremony is important to the people in our lives and to ourselves. There is something transformation in saying “I choose to evolve and grow with you forever”. The ritual is important because we choose to make it important, we choose to love, and we choose to continue loving.
Brooke and Adam were not married on New Years, but they did party and celebrate and dance to bring in a new era for their relationship. Congratulations!